I currently live on the east coast. Finalizing a LTR breakup (splitting our assets, figuring out finances,etc, and moving our own seperate ways). I have ****** up school and work for low wages in a restaurant.I have also acquired a reputation locally for being a bit crazy and unpredictable,and a bit of a partier.I got into drugs and drinking and haven’t gotten out. I’ve got no family here really, and only a couple friends.
My most recent boyfriend I thought would be “the one”, but he more and more seems interested in himself, and he is trying to get out of this town and possibly state as well. We broke up due to some personal problems of his, but still hang out, and still ocasionally have sex. He is the big contributing factor in me not wanting to leave. However, if he isn’t certain he loves me, and he is also considering moving somewhere else,maybe it doesn’t matter if I leave? Or could even help?
ALSO:
My parents are very religious. I will be required to attend sermons every week, and dress more modestly. I won’t be able to go clubbing or go to late night cincerts and events. Even girls’ nights out will be difficult to convince them of. I will mostly return to adolescence. There is a possibility I will be pressured into wearing the headscarf again.
But I can live with my parents, or with my sister and brother-in-law, at least until I get on my feet. They don’t even know the details of my LTR breakup,.let alone the second boyfriend, or any of the drug use or partying.I would essentially go back to being a kid in their home.Forget about dating.
But sometimes I feel like staying here is a dead end. I have no family, no one to fall back on, and my one friend/ex seems to be leaving before long, too, so what should I do? Would you pack up and move in with your sister in San Diego? Or stay in the D.C area where jobs are easier to come by, but you’ve fallen into a depressive cycle.
NOTE:
- Continuing college out there won’t be an issue; I am still in community college anyway, and have more transferrable credits over there than I do here anyway lol.
- Getting a job will be a little trickier, but I’m not picky and have restaurant/customer service experience.
Please give honest advice. Any other life advice is welcome.I am cleaning up my act on the drugs and alcohol and partying,please no lectures there.
Thank you, peace.:)

About myself first, my passion is film and I want to be a film director, but my current major is kinesiology at SFSU and plan on attending physical therapy school. Only reason I am not a cinema major is because I know film is hands-on and you do not need a degree for it, but Physical Therapy is a very nice job to attain in the future and is my back up plan if I do not make it as a film director.
I cannot double degree so how should I obtain credibility for film if I want to work in a film industry? There’s so many conflictions between the career paths and how much loan I will be needing to take out. I do not mind schooling forever. Basically I want to know should I do post-bac cinema after I graduate with BS kinesiology or just go into PT school right afterward or go into Masters cinema after my BS kinesiology or what?

I’m turning 16 years old in a few weeks and currently work at minimum wage at Marshalls with no chance of pay raise or bonuses. I want to get a second job this summer; I’m considering applying for a few positions such as a hostess at the Melting Pot or Outback Steakhouse, a server at Johnny Rockets, or a cashier at Au Bon Pain. Which of these would be most enjoyable and/or pays the best? Any other job suggestions would be helpful as well.

During the summer I work at a family owned each club and make minimum wage, I work about three to five hours for four days a week. I had a stellar idea that instead of doing my boring gate job, I could make and sell homemade ice pops instead. The club doesnt have a snack bar, and it gets up to eighty five or ninty degrees. I love cooking an am very good at it. My weekly expenses would most likely be around 30$ for groceries. And about another 25$ on supplies. I need to save up for a MacBook pro for school, so I’d like to choose the one that would make me the most money. Thanks!

If you receive welfare, shouldn’t you pay it back when you receive your tax return. The huge majority on Welfare receive hundreds to Thousands of dollars when they file their income taxes.
Why not take back the welfare paid from the tax refund they receive?

I’m 16 years old, I dropped out of sixthform 4 months ago because it was too hard and I intend on going to college in september. I thought instead of sitting at home everyday until september, I should get a job. So now I work 8.5 hours a day, £2.60 per hour. It’s not even minimum wage!!
my wage isn’t even covering my bus pass money, the money i give to my parents, my money i use for lunch everyday etc…
should i leave and look for another job?
what would you do?
(ps, I live with my parents so it’s not like I need the money to pay for my bills and house etc, and my mum said she’d start giving me pocket money if i do more chores)
thankyou xx

Will try to keep it to the cliff notes version but describing a marriage hardly ever is that simplistic…
Been married for 6 years, have known her for a bit more than that. Were high school sweethearts but broke up and got back together more times than I can count.
Fast forward to now. We both work and have no kids. And I find that I just don’t look at her the same way anymore. We seem to be more along the line of room mates rather than a married couple. Sex is very few and far between and I know I am just as much to blame for that as her. Simply put, I have no sexual interest in her anymore. She has always been a larger woman and I have never had an issue with that. However she has just kept increasing in weight to the point where it is having an effect on what is left of our love life. I never want to hurt her, I mean seriously how does one say “hey honey, your size is having a direct effect on my libido” without getting a swift kick in the nads?
Finances: After whatever money is put into the household funds, we keep the extras to ourselves to do whatever we want with it. I never say anything about what she does with her extra money, however I am constantly under a microscope about what I do with mine. And when the situation suits her she decides that my extra funds are the “household funds”. Not quite sure how my extra cash all of a sudden belongs to the house when her’s is constantly being used for purses, shoes and other things. I have been trying to save up for years for something that is very important to me but every time I manage to save up a significant sum, she always has some reason to tap into it saying it’s “for the house”.
Possibly cheating: If she says she is off of work at 5:30, she doesn’t walk in the door till close to 8:00. If she’s off at 3:00, she will get home at 6:00. This is a daily occurrence, and I do mean every day. I know it’s not traffic as we live 10mins. from her work. To add an interesting fact to this, a man that has declared his love for her lives about 45mins away from us. Once I told her that she should stop communicating with this guy, she fought with me saying that it wasn’t my choice. She even had the guy send me an email claiming he was no longer interested, thinking that would make me feel better about the whole thing. She finally agreed to stop talking with him, however the delays in her getting home are still there. I admit this is purely subjective but you gotta admit it’s fitting the facts very well.
Family and friends: I have fought with them constantly because they all hate her. As a result she hates all of them. Everyone says I should leave her, that she is manipulating me. I’ve stood my ground wanting this to be a decision I make, but appreciated their input. On the opposite side I am nothing more than an ethnic handyman for her mother whenever I am around. I am called constantly by her when I am out with friends and am given guilt trips every time I make plans with them. I apparently have to justify going out with my friends every single time.
General feelings: I much rather prefer I stay at work than go home. At home I feel depressed like I am “stuck”.
I am very far from the perfect husband but I have never cheated nor will I ever. At the same time feel like things should be much, much better.
…….what do I do about this?

I never trusted banks or credit cards, but then came the need to make some purchases that I just can’t do with cold hard cash in my hand. So, I set up an account with Paypal, and received my first payment. The problem now is being able to get to it. I looked to order a card for it, but the only options I see are Visa Mastercard, etc. So, is the paypal card like a debit card, credit card, or what? Very confusing, because I don’t wanna sink into debt any deeper than I already am. (college kid, you know the story. Not that I’m a bad spender, far from it. I just wanna wipe this out as fast as I can so I’ll have less to worry about 10 years down the line.)
Really nervous about all this, because I’m so used to actually holding the money in my hand so I know exactly how much I have.
Also, I don’t really know what kind of card I should get. Just now found out about the Prepaid Paypal cards, but heard there’s a monthly fee. It’s not dauntingly overpriced, but with no steady source of income and no help, I can’t possibly afford it anyway. Whatever cash I do have left is tucked away in a credit union since banks aren’t that safe anymore, but to keep it open, I have to leave that money in there.
Any answers in detail from personal experience dealing with Paypal cards, debit or prepaid, good AND bad, would be great. I don’t need links to the site or testimonials saying how ‘absolutely flawless’ it is.

I was planning on putting in my two week notice this week because I’m fed up with my employers and their bs. they’re very unprofessional, they’re liars, they’re unappreciative, the list goes on. and I’ve gotten fed up with dealing with their bs. anyways, I walk into work this morning and told I’m suspended for the week for reasons I don’t feel like going into (it’s a really dumb reason. they’re known for unreasonably suspending people). anyhow, it didn’t bother me too much since I was planning on giving my two weeks notice anyhow. but after this situation, I’d rather just go in for my check friday (this friday is payday) and then tell them I’m resigning then rather than having to work any longer and worry about going back to them for another check later. this will be my last check. should I give them a letter or just tell them up front when I pick up my check?

i had my present planed out but now i cant do it so i need to come up with something fast since mothers day is in 5 days and im low on cash so i need something that doesnt involve money like something homeade . Thanks! i really appreciate it